American woman dating a muslim man

Perhaps a close friend or relative is considering marrying a Muslim. (I say "her" because the vast majority of cases are women.) Maybe your friend has already made up her mind to marry him.

He is so nice, a real gentleman, and well-educated.

He said that by raping me, he is drawing closer to” Allah.

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Believe me, the legislation governing marriage and the family is extensive, and by Western standards is not at all favorable to the woman, especially one who is not Muslim. In Islamic law the woman is inferior to the man; she is always subject to a male guardian, whether he be her father, brother, or husband.

The woman has only half the value of a man when it comes to blood-money, inheritance, and her witness in court. He may marry a non-Muslim provided she is of the "people of the Book" (i.e. The children of such a mixed marriage belong to the husband, and must be raised Muslim (this is why a Muslim woman may not marry a non-Muslim).

Note to readers: This weblog entry on official advice to women not to marry Muslim men has, to my surprise and delight, become the springboard for an intense, heated, and personal dialogue between non-Muslim women romantically involved with Muslim men.

Judging by a number of testimonies, the site has proved valuable to many women benefiting from advice and the sharing of information; for a couple of examples see the postings by Sally, Nourshehane, Jeweler46, and Cindy (starting here, continuing here, and ending here).

Others have found solace in kindred spirits (see the posting of Becs).

Still others have drawn conclusions from their own experience and offered these for general use (see the posting of Standfree).

It is remarkable for its undiplomatic and anecdotal tone, so distant from the department's standard bureaucratic style.

For prospective spouses, "Marriage to Saudis" constituted an official tutorial in Saudi culture; for others, it served as a fascinating example of practical anthropology, school of hard knocks.

Because the preteen girl practiced a religion other than Islam, the Quran not only gave him the right to rape her — it condoned and encouraged it, he insisted. Then he knelt beside the bed and prostrated himself in prayer before getting on top of her.

When it was over, he knelt to pray again, bookending the rape with acts of religious devotion.

I am a secret to almost everyone he knows, and when he took me out to lunch at his favorite café he asked me not to hug him when I arrived, just shake hands.

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